20 Apr How To Be The Best Version of You
Life is full of ups and downs, we have so many factors to consider; our work, our personal lives, both mental and physical health, family, relationships, road blocks, finances and so many others. One day you are ahead, the next you’re behind, and it can be difficult to pull yourself up during the days, months or years that you feel you are falling to the back of the race. Here are some tips to help you push out of your comfort zone and find more happiness in your life!
- Sleep and water – Don’t underestimate them
These are 2 of the most basic things your body needs to function properly. You might like to stay up late, you may have difficult working shift patterns or possibly you just forget. But to function at full capacity, you need to prioritize your 8+ hours and your 2+ liters a day. These figures depend on you as an individual but if you’re falling short on these by a lot every day, you will eventually burn out. Equally, sleeping and staying in bed for too long can have a negative effect too so try and aim for 8-9 hours a night.
Following on from point number 1, waking up gets a whole lot easier when you stick to a ‘wake up’ time. Eventually your body will begin to naturally wake you up at this time and it wont feel like you’ve just fallen from a cliff and have to jump straight into the day. In addition, having a routine of doing the things that you need to get done each day can help you achieve these things more efficiently, and feel more accomplished.
- Get good at doing the difficult things
Inevitably we all have things that we put off doing, or try and leave so long that it’s no longer required or someone else does it. Although it may feel really uncomfortable at first, taking charge and facing whatever these things are for you head on, will make you feel a whole lot better. Eventually, you wont even remember why you didn’t just get on and complete these tasks right away in the first place. It is great for your mind to feel a sense of satisfaction through doing something that you considered not doing; you will have talked yourself around and pushed yourself out of your comfort zone which is always a positive that you can take from your day and your self-development.
- Work on becoming trustable
If you’re someone that often doesn’t keep their word, hides things or tells little white lies, this can lead to a lot of resentment, distrust and negativity in your immediate circle. It’s true that sometimes we find it easier to avoid the truth or cancel plans due to so many reasons; mental health and fear of responses from others are 2 of the main ones. What do you need to do to change this?
Keep your word or at least apologize and use the truth when you can’t
Don’t play the victim – there’s usually more than just you in the situation and we all know the phrase “2 sides to every story” – remember that the other person or people in your narrative have emotions too, placing yourself as the victim diminishes their opinions and feelings on the situation and will push them further away. Always try to see from another point of view!
If you’re making a conscious decision not to tell somebody something, this is probably a sign that it is something that should be told. Think very carefully about your reasoning, often we don’t want to tell people the truth through fear of their reactions but withholding information can cause much bigger problems in the long run. Be brave and speak honestly, and see how this can help you overall.
Look after yourself
Are you clean, tidy and organized? If not, how can you expect others to trust you? Often people around you are subconsciously judging you based on how you behave in terms of hygiene, presentation, and organization – if people don’t feel that you can do these things for yourself, trust will diminish.
People will only want to trust you if they feel safe to share their own thoughts and emotions. The best way to encourage this is to listen. Often, we just hear – and the meaning of the conversation can fall by the wayside. Make sure you are focused on the conversation at hand, and you don’t get distracted, try to change the subject, or end up speaking about yourself.
All of these things will help to establish a bond of trust with those around you – whether it’s colleagues, friends, family or partners. You will find that they engage with you more often, want to be around you more, will be relaxed around you and your relationships will flourish. This, in turn, will bring enrichment to your life.
- Vow to learn more about yourself and the world
We are so caught up in our little bubbles that we forget there is always so much to learn. Start with yourself, really dig deep to figure out what drives you, your likes and dislikes and why you feel this way, figure out your flaws and work on adapting them, analyse how present you are with the people you care about and adjust this if necessary, listen to feedback from those around you when they give it rather than brushing it off or creating an argument.
Additionally, educate yourself on the world. Expand your knowledge of places or of people, listen to podcasts such as Invisibilia or The Hidden Brain where your thoughts and views on everything can be challenged and developed. The more you know, or the more you can speak of, the more you bring to the table in work, relationships, conversations, and life in general.
- Be mindful of your physicality
This is quite broad but so important. Like it or not, we all have an appearance – usually, we like some parts of ourselves and dislike others. We should all be loved for who we are, but if you are not feeling happy physically then this can have a huge impact on your life and your mindset. This doesn’t mean that you have to conform to a certain weight or size, but it’s crucial to remember that you are in control and you have the power – if you want to change something, you can. Our bodies are the vehicles that get us through life so it is imperative that we listen to them and do our best for them! Think about how you exercise and what you eat. Are you giving yourself the best chance to succeed? Could you add in a few more pieces of fruit and vegetables and swap out some of the saturated fats and carbs? It is scientifically proven that certain foods fuel us well, whilst others not so much. If you want to get 100% out of your body and your mind, you have to give it 100% in the first place. The guidelines for food intake and exercise are there to help you take the very best care of your body. Equally, if you are not eating enough and you are over exercising, this effect on your mind and body can be just as damaging. Do some research, really analyze your life and diet, and see what changes you could make to get more out of your body and brain.
- Remove extra stress
Stress comes in so many forms and is entirely different for all of us. Removing it doesn’t always mean that you simply give up or walk away from anything that stresses you out, although this can be the case. If your job is causing you stress, for instance, rather than suffering in silence or just quitting – why not grab a notebook and write down all of the negative things that are weighing on your mind? Then, ask yourself WHY these impact on you. As an example, you may find a certain task difficult because you don’t feel like you have the tools or enough knowledge to complete it. In this case, it would be a great idea to reach out to a manager or work colleague if you can for help. If this is not an option, speak to a friend or family member who may have some advice or knowledge. Or, use the internet to educate yourself on how to fulfil this task. If it is a friendship or relationship which is bothering you, it may seem like the hardest thing to do but the best first option is to speak to this person. Often we expect people to know how we are feeling and this is not often the case. If this still doesn’t work, it can be best to walk away from a person who has such a negative impact on you. Reducing your working time/workload, taking time to yourself, agreeing to fewer things, drinking/smoking less can all help to eliminate some of your stress. The key point here is to take the time to figure out what you need to do and then doing the work to make it happen. It’s not always easy, but “nothing changes if nothing changes”!
- Hard work
Ultimately, the best thing you can do is work hard. No, not just at your job. In figuring yourself out and finding what it is you need and then executing these things. We are complex beings so it can take a lot of time and effort to really get to know and accept yourself, but it certainly can be done. If you ignore your problems and remain oblivious to the reasons you’re feeling the way you do, nothing will ever change. If you’re really stuck for where to start, the internet has so many amazing resources that can help you on your journey. Search ‘Self Development Joruney’ and find what works for you!